A friend of mine was having a tough time. Her life had hit one of these bumps that tend to show up once in a while. Because she and I are not very close friends, I did not know what the best way to bring a little relief to her life would be. I considered asking her to "let me know if she needed anything," but somehow, I sensed that while it would make me feel better to have offered, not much of anything useful would come out of it, for her. Then I considered offering something specific. Maybe bringing her some soup or some chocolate (this usually works for me). And yet, it still did not feel quite right. Guided by a burst of inspiration, I chose to take on a more direct tactic and asked her to "tell me three things she needed, right now." Three things. Three things she needed. Right now. Immediately, she answered:
Within an hour, I showed up at her door with a hot meal for that night and her medication. Later that evening, I set up a "Meal Train," that would allow other people to join in the privilege of making her life a little easier AND would provide her with some nutritious, effortless food for a while - not to mention remind her of how much she is loved. I am so glad this very specific question came to my mind. I have a feeling that this is one I will use again and again. "Tell Me Three Things You Need, Right Now." I invite your to try it. Comments are closed.
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