On Forgiveness, Trust and Confusion

On Forgiveness, Trust, and Confusion.

8/7/2017

I feel that there is a difference between forgiving someone, and allowing ourselves to trust them again.

It's a two step process, or maybe sometimes we don't get to the second step. Which I think is fine.

The pain and confusion come from assuming that one automatically leads to the other - and then beating ourselves up for not being able to live that.

2 Comments

Kelly

8/7/2017 06:50:25 pm

Very true. I have qualified friendships this way a few time. I appreciate and so forgive the person, but trust is a different concern. Do you feel safe? The funny thing is, when there is a problem that you have confronted someone with, the experience (having a frank discussion about how they may have hurt you) could lead her/him to being the person you could trust most...but you don't.

Jacqueline

8/10/2017 09:46:13 am

So right❣️A very important distinction❣️

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